Relationships 101: The Communication Dilemma Part 1

My life continues to change and its amazing. God continues to teach me things and I am happy to say I’m His sponge. God is showing me some things about a few people that hurts but doesn’t harm me. Meaning yes things are painful but not to the extent that the pain lasts. I can feel God molding me and changing me where He needs me to change, and preparing me for the things in my future as I grow as a man living my life for God as best I can. Something God has put on my heart lately is communication and how crucial it is in relationships. I see many people encounter trouble in their relationships, and from what I can see it stems from the lack of communication, or communicating the right message in the wrong way. Personally I have a few different responses to the commnication dilema:

1) Do not wait for someone elses approach to you before you communicate what you feel. Take initiative. This involves risk and making yourself vulnerable but the right words said in the right way stand a good chance of making the situation better before it gets worse.

2) Let God be your Guide. Too many people, myself included, Try to navigate relationships on their own. When people are left to their own knowledge and personalities to navigate relationships with other people they sometimes fail. They’re human, it happens. But when we seek guidance from The One who created us and knows us and who knows the people we associate with life becomes easier because we arent left trying to figure everything out.

3) Pray earnestly for people. When I find myself at a place in life where I pray constantly for the well being of those around me it gives me a compassionate and caring mentality and gives me the urge to be more proactive in my relationship with them. Repetition is the key here. Do not stop asking in prayer for God to be active in your relationships with others.

4) Check in with people. This goes along the same lines with #1. People want to know they are cared for. This will impact your relationships greatly if you reach out to someone and are interested in what they are going through because it builds confidence in the person you approach. They then (usually) relaize that you are a trustworthy and caring person and a person who they can count on to confide in and be uplifted by. This doesn’t have to be someone you are close with. It can be a classmate, coworker, person you see at a Worship assembly, or simply someone you pass on the street. I encourage you to stop and take time out of your busy life and to check in on people you would not normally think to ask about. God will bless your actions in ways you may not be able to see until you take action.

5) Break through boundaries with people. Jesus was a master at this, and I feel we could learn countless lessons from Christ when it comes to the lack of boundaries He had. Unfortunately people get hurt, and when people become hurt they put up a boundary to keep that from happening again. But if we look to the Author and Finisher of our faith as a guide we will see that Jesus took risks to benefit others and made Himself vulnerable to attacks on His character and to being disappointed by the outcome of situations. But that never stopped Him from reaching out to people. In my opinion we should focus on the ways Jesus took difficult situations and made them into beneficial treasures for the people He encountered, and apply such things to our lives. In doing so we will see that God will bless our actions that come from a sincere heart.

I encourage you to take these things to heart, but more importantly seek God’s Wisdom first while you navigate through your relationships with people. I hope and pray that your relationships reach their full potential and that you play a role in helping someone become stronger in their faith in God today.



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